Father’s Day is just around the corner. It’s a time for celebration, remembrance, and thanksgiving for many. But some people never experience the loving relationship of a godly father. Their views of fatherhood are tainted by hatred, abuse, and abandonment. How can Christian men change the paradigm of fatherhood for future generations? How can you be a godly husband and father?
4 Keys to Unlocking the Role of a Godly Husband and Father:
- You must demonstrate a sacrificial love.
- You must love your wife as you love your own body.
- You must leave your father and mother and be joined to your wife.
- You must not anger your children.
Key #1 – Demonstrate sacrificial love.
The Bible is replete with examples of sacrifice and real love. Paul uses one illustration in Ephesians to exhort husbands to be godly—Christ’s love for the Church. How is Christ’s love for His bride described?
What other ways did Christ show His love?
- Sanctification and cleansing (John 17:17; 1 John 1:7-9)
- Reminding the Church about her glorious future and hope (Colossians 1:22, 28; Revelation 19:7-8)
Key #2 – Love your wife as yourself.
How do you take care of your own body? Or, more importantly, how would you like to be treated and cared for?
Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others. Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus, (Philippians 2:3-5 NKJV).
You are to care for your wife as you would care for yourself, seeking her best interest. You must “nourish” and “cherish” her (1 Thessalonians 2:7-11). View her as your own “flesh and bones”—this is a reference to how God structured the marriage relationship in Genesis 2:21-25.
Key #3 – Leave your parents and be joined to your wife.
This key seems obvious but don’t miss the point here. The verbs are active and continuous. The words insist on “forsaking” your birth family and describe being “stuck together” in your new family.
Key #4 – Don’t anger your children.
Are you fulfilling the role of a godly father? In Ephesians 6, Paul explains this final exhortation to family leaders:
- Children are to be “brought up” (cherished).
- Children must be “nourished” (disciplined). See Hebrews 12:5-11 for a good illustration.
- Children must be “admonished” (put the mind down)—the Old Testament was written for that purpose (1 Corinthians 10:11).
Now you know the 4 keys! How do you measure up as a godly husband and father?
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